October 2, 2013

Purple Purses + Domestic Violence

This is a compensated campaign in collaboration with Latina Bloggers Connect and The Allstate Foundation.

Domestic Violence. 
It affects one in four women in their lifetime - that's more women than breast, ovarian and lung cancer combined! Chances are you know someone who is experiencing it right now and not even know it. The crazy thing is you may be experiencing domestic violence yourself and not even know it. How is that? Well when you think about domestic violence you generally think it's just about the "violence" but it's so much more than that! Have you ever heard of financial abuse? I hadn't! I actually looked it up and was surprised to find that it is way more common than I thought. Sadly financial abuse is very common in the Latino/Hispanic community. Many see it as a way of life and don't even question it. Lacking financial knowledge and resources is the number one indicator of whether a domestic violence victim will stay, leave or return to an abusive relationship. Many people live this way because they lack knowledge. They have no idea that there's such a thing as financial abuse and go on living their lives unhappy and unstable. Here are a couple examples of financial abusive behavior that I found online...
  • Giving you an allowance and closely watching what you buy.
  • Placing your paycheck in their account and denying you access to it.
  • Keeping you from seeing shared bank accounts or records.
  • Forbidding you to work or limiting the hours you do.
  • Preventing you from going to work by taking your car or keys.
  • Getting you fired by harassing you, your employer or coworkers on the job.
  • Using your social security number to obtain credit without your permission.
  • Using your child’s social security number to claim an income tax refund without your permission.
  • Maxing out your credit cards without your permission.
  • Refusing to give you money, food, rent, medicine or clothing.
  • Using funds from your children’s tuition or a joint savings account without your knowledge.
  • Spending money on themselves but not allowing you to do the same.

  • You see domestic violence goes way beyond just violence! It is an issue that impact millions yet very few talk about it. A majority of Americans agree that domestic violence is tough to talk about and more than one-third of Americans have NEVER even discussed the issue with family or friends. That is where The Purple Purse Foundation comes in as an aid to get people talking and spread the word about domestic violence and financial abuse by placing the power directly into people's hands with a purple purse. Not only does the Purple Purse Foundation help spread the word but for every purple purse passed through the end of October, The Allstate Foundation will donate $5 for every purse "passed" to YWCA (up to $350,000) for programs aimed to help domestic violence survivors and to ultimately stop the cycle of abuse.

    If you are a victim of domestic abuse or know someone who is seek some help please! You can visit the Purple Purse website or Facebook for tools and more infomation. You can also make a difference by going to www.purplepurse.com and enter the code below. Taking action against domestic violence is simple - PURPLE PURSE: PASS IT ON.
    I will be receiving an actual purple purse soon which I will be passing on to someone else which I will be sharing photos of on instagram, twitter and facebook. I am honored and thankful to do my small part in helping those going through domestic abuse.



    1. What a great cause! I can see it being more of a hush hush topic, not good for those who have experienced it...thank you for sharing

    2. Replies
      1. Sadly we do! It's important to speak up and inform ourselves as women so we can help those going through such terrible things. Thanks for your comment Iris! :)

    3. this is such a good cause to be involved with. great way to bring awareness!

    4. What an amazing cause! Thank you so much for sharing! I had never heard of them before!

    5. I never realized that this was abuse, but after reading it I totally see now that once upon a time I was a victim of financial abuse. Thankfully I did not put up with the behavior for long before I put an end to it. It was hard though. I thought I was just dating a control freak jerk, but I had never really classified him as abusive. It makes me wonder now, is he doing the same thing to another woman, a woman who might not be as knowledgeable or apt to kick him out the door?

      Also, did you find any research to suggest that men who actively participate in financial abuse move on to more physical forms of abuse?

      1. Me either, I'm glad I was able to work on this campaing because I actually learned some things I didn't know about and in return I can share them on my blog.

        I'm glad you were able to leave that abusive relationship. I can imagine it must have been hard but I'm glad you didn't put up with it! I actually didn't look into that. I would think that most men do move on from financial abuse to more physical forms. It has to start somewhere right? I'm sure it can escalate to that if things don't go their way.

        Thanks so much for your comment Karly! :)

    6. I didn't know this was classified as 'abuse', thanks for sharing Cindy!


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